Friends, why do we study hard? Work hard? Run after success, material possessions? Develop and maintain relationships? Strive to be recognized? Basically, we keep chasing our desires/ goals. In this endless pursuit of happiness, we go through myriad life experiences!
We know, nobody can be happy always and forever, as being happy is something so momentary, so transient, so relative! One has to learn to enjoy the journey.
After much deliberation, FIVE STEPS have been identified to help us be A HAPPY PERSON:
STEP 1… PHYSICAL EXERCISE
It’s a known scientific fact that any kind of exercise releases ENDORPHINS, these chemicals trigger positive emotions, an energetic outlook on life, feeling of wellbeing. Do try a good jog/run or a workout, and feel the exhilaration! I myself started going to a GYM at age 50+.
STEP 2… ENJOY EXPERIENCES
Just a few months back we were driving in the hills at around 9:00 pm, we noticed a thick tail in the bushes on the roadside, we slowed down and whoaaa suddenly we spotted a majestic leopard just about two meters away from our car, our eyes locked with his mesmerizing, shining, amber eyes, for almost a minute, my hand was frantically rummaging my purse for the cellphone to click a picture. Car headlights on the glorious, young wild beast, what an experience it was!
I am happy, I could not find the phone, I would have missed it all. Why lose out on an experience for a photo? Friends, every time I and my husband recount this experience, we relive the thrill, we feel bonded, it’s a part of us forever!
Experiences create lifelong memories.
STEP 3… CHANGE IS THE ONLY CONSTANT
If something is bothering you, you are going through a bad phase, do remember, nothing is forever, this too shall pass.
If you are on top of the world, having a good time, don’t forget, this too will change, remain grounded. Many Indian citizens are stuck in the Ukraine war zone, their families are worried, the world is watching it all with bated breath, have faith, things will resolve, peace will prevail, families will be united! Today’s hopeless situation will be followed by a better one, CHANGE IS INEVITABLE!
GOOD TIMES+BAD TIMES=LIFE
STEP 4… GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE
Dearies, it’s just an illusion, never ever compare yourself with others.
My own close friends and relatives would often comment,” It must be difficult for you since both your sons are settled abroad”; in these COVID times, I too started feeling that those who had their children with them were better off. At times I felt lonely, on my own, and scared, then I pulled myself up and realized that they had their own issues, being in each other’s way all the time for almost two years is not easy.
So, no comparison and be content with your own situation…This is the KEY TO BE HAPPY!
JUST KEEP WATERING THE GRASS ON YOUR SIDE!
STEP 5… ADJUST HAPPILY
Don’t ever try to live your life as per others’ expectations, accept your situation, make the best of your own strengths, resources, try to be self-reliant in all aspects of life.
A very close friend of mine is an emotionally sensitive person, she used to be quite upset with her husband as she always felt that he was self-centered, not caring enough, doesn’t show emotions.
After almost 10 years of married life, after a lot of arguments and heartaches, she has come to understand that he has his own way of showing concern which she was unable to appreciate. He books a nice place for dinner on her B’day but no flowers, no gift; he comes home from work and over a cup of tea asks,” How was your day? Any news about family? What did the kids do? Etc.” but no hug, no compliment about the great savories she prepares for him. This used to bother her until she adjusted her own expectations.
Adjustment doesn’t mean that one should not strive to change unfavorable circumstances, it means working towards a “better you” more in sync with your own circumstances, with people in your life!
So, friends, look for positives, adjust….happily.
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